Agreed. In my attempt at brevity, I may have sacrificed some precision.
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technical perspective, I stand by my statements. Every camera-lens combination will have its own aesthetic bokeh qualities, which can be amplified by the same techniques used to achieve shallow depth of field. For instance, one will never achieve nonagonal bokeh with a 5-bladed aperture, and aperture geometry is only interchangeable on select lenses. Lenses prized for their bokeh tend to have small deltas in their meridonial and sagittal MTF curves. Reducing your depth of field will increase the rendered size of anything out of focus. These are immutable, technical facts, and you're right, they do not make aesthetic judgments.
You are also correct that bokeh has no "size," but the out-of-focus elements constituting it do. Shooting two different 35mm f/1.4 lenses on the same camera will produce identically-sized bokeh elements with different overall bokeh aesthetics. It is probably most useful to compare the differences in bokeh element size as a function of camera settings.