A bit more explanation on my shutter speed and aperture. I was originally not using flash and due to the strong back lighting, I was not getting as good exposure on the face. From memory I was around f/8 and something a lot faster on shutter speed, like 1/640 ish.
When I put the flash on, I was limited to 1/200 as the fastest sync speed available (DX Nikon D3000). I do have ISO 100 as base ISO available. 1/200 was giving me f/16 for ambient exposure (at ISO 400).
Thanks for the encouragement Binnur and Dean. Yes, I think he's lovely too... most of the time
