Originally Posted by
Tronhard
Hi Izzie:
This conversation began as what I thought would be a simple matter of finding a lens that might fit a need, but we have gone way past that now...
At first look sending him a lens would seem like the thing to do for a quick solution. I have lots of lenses and bodies, and I would be happy to give him whatever he needs. I considered it, but after discussing this with his sister I have had to look at other factors as I am having to deal with a very delicate situation with regards mental health.
In sending him a lens I am relieving him of the cost and trouble of getting one himself, and most people would see that as a big positive. However I am also making a decision for him and when he is stressed, he will feel trapped and can react negatively. I have found from experience that education and persuasion where he has control is a far gentler and more productive means of progressing him along. He is HIGHLY intelligent, but pays for that in other ways: he just needs to gain the knowledge and skills for controlling his technical issues and then he will move forward - and he will do that. In the meantime he will not tolerate having me decide for him, and I must respect that.