I do most of my own printing on my Epson 3880, so I use AdobeRGB for that work.
When I use a commercial printer, most of them look at you with a blank stare when you ask them which colour space they use; so I assume that sRGB is what I am going to get. Some of them will give you their ICC profiles for their printers / paper, so that helps (I don't soft proof my own prints, but I do check for clipping when I send out to commercial printers).